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In the deep and diverse tapestry of human existence, the journey to embrace one's authentic self can be a profound and transformative experience. For queer people, this path can be particularly powerful, as it intertwines gender, sexuality, and the desire to experience being truly connected.
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In the pursuit of living our best lives, shedding the weight of shame can be a transformative and empowering journey. For queer people, especially those navigating queer/lesbian bed death, releasing shame around sexuality and identity is a vital step towards embracing true liberation. In this...
Today, let's delve into a topic that resonates with many long-term queer partnerships: queer/lesbian bed death. Yes, it's a phenomenon that can cast a shadow over the intimate connection we crave. But it doesn’t have to be this way.
Enter tantra, a transformative practice that offers...
Your eyes meet across the room. They give you a little nod of acknowledgment. You check behind you. Was that to me? Your heart flutters and you go weak at the knees…
Having a crush. Someone you fancy. There are many ways to describe that giddy feeling of initial attraction to someone....
Important note:
The conversation that follows must be had and understood within a context of consent. Each of us has the right to give or withdraw consent at ANY time under ANY circumstances. You can withdraw consent at any anytime without reason AND for any reason. Saying no is a human right....
Every moment you invest in yourself is filling your cup. When you pour goodness and kindness into yourself you are juicing up your soul. It’s like priming the soil to receive all of the universe’s abundance that is ready and waiting for you.
To cultivate the self is to grow, to...
Androgyny is the combination of masculine and feminine characteristics into an ambiguous form. And yet some people define androgyny as the state of being neither specifically feminine or masculine. So which is it?
One of the things I love about androgyny is that it leaves people with...
There has been so much written about feminine energy by straight women. You could spend a whole lifetime wading through the thinking, books and art that have been produced. I want to talk about divine feminine energy within a queer context.
As with all gender energies, the gender you were...
Gender only exists in language. And it’s made up by humans.
Gender refers to the social and cultural roles, attitudes, behaviors, and expectations associated with being a ‘man’ or a ‘woman’. It is a social construct and can vary across different cultures and...
Why are some people able to shoot off straight after Kings of Joy Gold Stars and go solo while others are not sure what to do next or even where to start?
I’m Danica Lani, the King Coach and I’ve proudly mentored 78 first-time Drag Kings through Kings of Joy since December 2020.
I...
I’m standing in the kitchen, a dropped plate on the floor, staring at my hand. There’s quite a cut on my palm and it’s starting to bleed. This is my wake-up call.
Whenever I injure myself, I take it as a reminder that I’m not present. And that I need to get present...
Imagine a place, a safe place, among people who get you on some level, who perhaps have a similar lived experience... imagine gathering together, week after week to lean into and explore gender. It's what I recommend in all my queer tantra workshops. Lean into a variety of gender expressions....
