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How to cultivate masculine energy energy gender gift to the world habits human magnetism queer tantra May 06, 2023

Gender only exists in language. And it’s made up by humans.

Gender refers to the social and cultural roles, attitudes, behaviors, and expectations associated with being a ‘man’ or a ‘woman’.  It is a social construct and can vary across different cultures and...

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Make your Drag King Come Alive on Stage drag drag king energy gender human magnetism kings of joy kings of joy all-stars lgbtqia+ performance queer queer tantra yoga May 01, 2023

Why are some people able to shoot off straight after Kings of Joy Gold Stars and go solo while others are not sure what to do next or even where to start?

I’m Danica Lani, the King Coach and I’ve proudly mentored 78 first-time Drag Kings through Kings of Joy since December 2020.

I...

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By god, I'm bi-gender! drag drag king empowerment energy human magnetism lgbtqia+ queer queer tantra Jan 20, 2023

If you're anything like me, growing up in Australia, we were handed one of two genders. And it wasn't a choice. When we were born, it was declared, it's a boy! or it's a girl! (Imagine if there was a less prescriptive declaration made: It's a human!) Being assigned female or male meant that you...

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Being present in a big way empowerment gift to the world human magnetism performance the four pillars the king coach yoga Apr 05, 2022

Being 100% at home in your own skin is one of the four pillars of being empowered through the body. Without this experience, we are often not present, not quite here, distracted, and ultimately disconnected. Social anxiety rises, self-doubt or imposter syndrome creeps in and life passes by in a...

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If you're tired of being tired, don't skip this practice empowerment habits human magnetism queer tantra yoga Mar 22, 2022

Do you ever wake up tired of being tired? Low energy can impact our mood and in turn, impacts our capacity to feel good in the body. Here are five steps to turn around low energy. (Don't miss step five, it's a life-saver.)

Step one: Check-in with yourself.

Do you need a nap? I don't have time...

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The energy source that never runs out empowerment human magnetism performance queer tantra yoga Mar 08, 2022

Where does energy come from? Where does our vitality come from? Rather than thinking of energy as a limited supply that we each individually get, try on imagining energy as an unlimited supply that never runs out. Picture it coming from a source bigger than yourself, from life itself, from the...

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How much pleasure can you stand? empowerment habits human magnetism queer tantra the four pillars Mar 04, 2022

Right now, in this very moment, you and I have a certain capacity for pleasure. Once we reach this capacity, we often stop or don't go beyond this limit. It's the capacity of how much pleasure we can experience in one moment. 

Ever noticed how you can't let too much pleasure in? Think about...

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Do you seek out pleasure or pain? empowerment habits human magnetism somatic coach the four pillars Jan 27, 2022

When our body is in a state of fight, flight, or freeze, our attention is on any kind of threat. Whether it's a real threat or a perceived threat, our body still responds in the same way - by activating the nervous system. This is useful if the threat is right in front of us, however staying in...

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5 daily tips to starting the New Year afresh block 13 empowerment habits human magnetism somatic coach Jan 05, 2022

If you're not leaping out of bed to start the New Year, don't worry, you're not alone. It takes something to shift from the holiday season back into a routine - even one that you know is good for you. Whether you're returning to work, your business, or study, let's not pretend that the transition...

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The secret to distractions: dealing with kids, pets and yoga human magnetism yoga Nov 23, 2021

One of my all-time favourite yoga photographs is of a woman in a headstand. Her baby has crawled over to her, pulled at her top, and started breastfeeding. The woman continues her steady gaze, following her breath, and practicing yoga. If you can practice yoga in the chaos around you, then you...

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Who do I work with? human family human magnetism lgbtqia+ queer somatic coach Oct 19, 2021

Hello, my friend!

In case we haven’t met yet, let me introduce myself. You might have questions about the work I do and who I work with.

I empower LGBTQIA+ people through the body using the modalities of dance, yoga and tantra so that we can stay sane, be 100% at home in our own skin and...

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When you’re feeling ‘meh’, get up to something diary empowerment human magnetism somatic coach Sep 28, 2021

If you’re feeling like the colour has gone out of life a little during this lockdown, you’re not alone. Adam Grant, an organizational psychologist talks about a useful middle ground between depression and flourishing recently in the NY Times. When you feel a little ‘meh’...

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