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Breakups Suck. Always. A Spiritual Guide to Healing queer tantra Oct 27, 2023

Breakups – they're like that stubborn bandaid you've had on for way too long. Taking it off slowly can be excruciating, like feeling every tiny hair being plucked from your skin. The quick rip approach still hurts, but it gets done and the pain is short-term and disappears sooner. Sometimes...

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Kings of Joy Podcast interview with Ragnor the Ravishing: Breaking Viking Normative Stereotypes kings of joy podcast Oct 26, 2023

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Please welcome to the stage, our one and only Viking of the night... and of the community. Ragnor the Ravishing! Make yourself at home. 

Danica Lani  0:30  

So everyone, welcome to the Kings of Joy podcast Show Live at the Bandstand by...

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Stories of Self-Discovery: Meet the Stars of 'The Kings of Joy Podcast Show Live at the Bandstand'! drag king kings of joy Oct 17, 2023

Are you ready to dive into a world of self-expression, empowerment, and unapologetic authenticity? Well, get ready because we've got a spectacular treat coming your way! The stage is set, and the spotlight is ready to shine on an extraordinary event that's bound to make your heart swell with...

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Queers of Joy's Biggest Surprise Yet: Two Kings of Joy Groups Debut! kings of joy queers of joy Oct 11, 2023

[Cream L to R: Drew Dickdale, Bazza Bagz, Ragnor the Ravishing, Golden Boy Brad, Luca Me. Jalebi Baby L to R: Lalo Land, Craig Beat, Aashiq Singh, Dusty Evans.]

Hey there, handsome,

This week, the Kings of Joy have some exciting news that's bound to set your hearts aflutter and your spirits...

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Compelling Promises: Shaping the Future of Your Relationship queer tantra Oct 06, 2023

In the world of love and partnerships, promises are like the seeds we plant for our shared future. They hold the potential to shape the course of our journey together. But, as we all know, promises are delicate and need careful tending, especially in queer relationships where the dynamics might...

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Body Confidence: How to Masc Up your Curves drag king kings of joy Oct 06, 2023

Humans have curves. I’ve never met anyone who is completely angular or straight up and down. Bodies have curves. 

Having coached 89 and currently on our way to 100 first-time Drag Kings, I’ve seen all kinds of body shapes - each one powerfully unique and beautiful. It is true...

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The 3 Stages of Relationship: Are you Questioning Their Commitment? queer tantra Sep 29, 2023

It’s been a while now since you first got together and somewhere along the line, the question comes up - is this a relationship? We have cute ways of saying this to each other. “Are we girlfriends?” Or one of you gets brave and pops the question, “Will you be my...

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Meet the Extraordinary Faces of Kings of Joy All Stars! drag king kings of joy kings of joy all-stars Sep 26, 2023

Are you ready to embark on an incredible journey of self-discovery, self-expression, and empowerment? Look no further, because the Kings of Joy All Stars are back, and they're ready to inspire you to live your best life!

Unveiling the All Stars

Our All Stars program is a glittering...

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Navigating Intimacy: The Power of Agreements in Queer & Lesbian Relationships queer tantra Sep 22, 2023

What has a relationship work? Why do some relationships last and others don’t? 

If you’re anything like me, you’ve pondered these questions before. Sometimes we think about it when we are starting a new relationship and often, we think about it acutely when a relationship...

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Kings of Joy podcast interview with Casual Harry: The Drag Daddy of South Africa drag king kings of joy podcast Sep 22, 2023

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Hello and welcome. My name is Danica Lani. I'm known as the King Coach and you're listening to the Kings of Joy podcast. I am joined today with an incredible performer who I cannot wait to introduce you to... Casual Harry all the way from Cape Town, South Africa. Welcome Casual,...

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Drag King Soundtrack: Crafting Unforgettable Performance Through Music anti-racism kings of joy all-stars Sep 18, 2023

Why are some people able to shoot off straight after Kings of Joy Gold Stars and go solo while others are not sure what to do next or even where to start?

I’m Danica Lani, the King Coach and I’ve proudly mentored 89 first-time Drag Kings through Kings of Joy since December 2020.

I...

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Understanding the Three Entities in Your Relationship queer tantra Sep 14, 2023

Growing up in this world can be challenging. Not only do we inherit a binary definition of gender, but the binary ‘this or that’ or ‘two opposites’ approach can inhabit other areas of life as well. One of them is relationships.

The model of relationship that I inherited

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