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There has been so much written about feminine energy by straight women. You could spend a whole lifetime wading through the thinking, books and art that have been produced. I want to talk about divine feminine energy within a queer context.
As with all gender energies, the gender you were...
Gender only exists in language. And it’s made up by humans.
Gender refers to the social and cultural roles, attitudes, behaviors, and expectations associated with being a ‘man’ or a ‘woman’. It is a social construct and can vary across different cultures and...
Why are some people able to shoot off straight after Kings of Joy Gold Stars and go solo while others are not sure what to do next or even where to start?
I’m Danica Lani, the King Coach and I’ve proudly mentored 78 first-time Drag Kings through Kings of Joy since December 2020.
I...
Do you remember a moment when you froze in front of a group of people? You might have been standing in front of your classroom as a kid or even on stage in a school play. In the split second of this experience, we make a decision. I’m never doing that again. And we don’t. We stop...
I’m standing in the kitchen, a dropped plate on the floor, staring at my hand. There’s quite a cut on my palm and it’s starting to bleed. This is my wake-up call.
Whenever I injure myself, I take it as a reminder that I’m not present. And that I need to get present...
Imagine a place, a safe place, among people who get you on some level, who perhaps have a similar lived experience... imagine gathering together, week after week to lean into and explore gender. It's what I recommend in all my queer tantra workshops. Lean into a variety of gender expressions....
Hey there, breathtaking human! Today, we're going to talk about something that's close to my heart – integrity and sex. As part of the LGBTQIA+ community, we know that sex can be complicated, but it's essential to approach it with honesty, respect, and love. So, let's dive in!
Have...
Being a first-time Drag King can be a transformative and empowering experience. My first time performing as a Drag King in 2011 in Melbourne certainly was. And later in Sydney when a mutual friend and Drag King, That Guy Steve, introduced me and Chris, it was while performing in a Drag King...
First comes the shock - especially when it's unexpected. You're scrolling along on socials and boom - there's a post that shows you firsthand the nazi salute made by a tiny group of self-proclaimed neo-nazis holding a hateful sign aimed at people who are trans. No, not in America. Here in...
Was anyone else completely exhausted by Fair Day with WorldPride? In Sydney we were hosting the Sydney WorldPride event. Normally you have Mardi Gras and that's a great festival. This year we had WorldPride, which was like Mardi Gras on steroids. It was epic. There were events,...
What is it that takes everyday intimacy from everyday to tantric? There is one fundamental and integral secret ingredient...
So what is reverence?
Reverence is a feeling or attitude of deep respect, awe, and admiration towards something or someone believed to be sacred, holy, or deserving of...
Are you sick of experiences of toxic masculinity, where masculine expression comes out sideways in impactful and harmful ways?
Yeah, me too. That's why, at Kings of Joy, we don't do representations of toxic masculinity onstage. It could be really easy to invent a Drag King character who is...
