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Like a Pro: Crafting Your Drag King Persona performance Jan 12, 2024

Why are some people able to jump right up on stage and strut their stuff as a Drag King while others are not sure what to do next or even where to start?

I’m Danica Lani, the King Coach and I’ve proudly mentored 102 first-time Drag Kings through Kings of Joy since December 2020. I've also led tr...

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Boldly You: A Guide to Making 2024 Your Most Empowered Year Yet! queer relating Jan 04, 2024

Have you ever had the feeling at the start of another year that things just feel the same? That nothing has really changed? Whether you had a great NYE or a lousy one, things just feel normal the next day. (Be proud, put your hand up if you had a lousy NYE! Truly, there are so many expectations plac...

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Completion: How to Make Peace with Your Year queer relating Dec 22, 2023

My mission is to empower LGBTQIA+ people to feel good in the body by exploring gender, sexuality and performance so that we can be 100% at home in our own skin. But left to my own devices, you'll find me pottering around the house finding new ways to organise and store things. I am my own Marie Kond...

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The Power of Grief: Malaika Mfalme’s debut album, Yasmin queer relating Dec 16, 2023

What are acceptable expressions of grieving? Who gets to say? Where can grief get most powerfully expressed?

These questions, posed like a gentle inquiring friend, are woven into the tapestry of Malaika Mfalme’s stunning debut album, Yasmin. This beautiful container for Malaika’s journey of grief a...

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Reclaim Your Sexuality: Are You an Introvert or Extrovert? queer relating Dec 08, 2023

Working closely with over 100 first-time Drag Kings as the King Coach has given me a rich and deeper understanding of gender, sexuality and performance. Most recently, I’ve come across an interesting discovery about human sexuality.

Emma* knew there was something to discover about themselves when t...

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The Power of Gathering: 4 Reasons It's Essential for Your Best Life drag king culture queer relating Dec 06, 2023

As I open the front door, laden with a picnic blanket, rice paper rolls and Luna the dog, I’m still in the thick of anxiety about the state of the house. Having spent the weekend launching our 7-year-old daughter’s new slime business, there’s a trail of glue bottles, sticker paper, dyes and glitter ...

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Navigating Diversity in Love: Polyamory and Monogamy in LGBTQIA+ Relationships queer relating Dec 01, 2023

When I look back at my life, I have centered myself in and around relationship. Intimate relationships have been where I’ve learned some of life’s hardest lessons and grown with velocity.Ā 

Truth bomb: I’ve been in relationship either with one partner or multiple partners in ethical open non-monogam...

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Kings Rise: Celebrating 3 Years of Queer Joy with a Spectacular Debut Performance! kings of joy Nov 28, 2023

[L to R: Ben D. Dick, Terra Cockta, Rex Coochie, in throne: Brad Arm Pitt.]

This week, Queers of Joy celebrates their 3rd birthday. What started out as a new performance night showcasing trans and gender-diverse artists has developed into a gathering of community and a celebration of trans and gend...

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Redefining Royalty: The Journey of The King Coach, Danica Lani drag king culture Nov 23, 2023

Chris aka Chase Cocks
I think it might be time to hear from The King Coach, Daddy Joy, my wife, Danica Lani. Dario, where are you?

Danica LaniĀ  0:16Ā Ā 
My darling, my love. Where have you been in my life? **kiss** Give it up for Chase Cocks, everyone. Lives up to his name, that's all I can say.Ā 

H...

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Joyful Resistance: How Action Can Make a Tangible Difference drag king culture queer relating Nov 14, 2023

[Dandy Rawhole. Photo credit: Sarah Malone]

In times of humanitarian crisis and in the face of war, one can feel utterly helpless. It’s easy to spiral down.Ā 

Having been an activist for the majority of my life (close to 40 years), starting with reading David Suzuki at age 8 and being that person i...

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Kings of Joy Podcast interview with Jim Junkie: Vision Boards, Dolphins & Performative Masculinity podcast Nov 07, 2023

Jim JunkieĀ  0:00Ā Ā 
Alright, listen up legends!

Danica LaniĀ  0:04Ā Ā 
Jim is in the house. Jim is in the Bandstand.

Jim JunkieĀ  0:10Ā Ā 
Ready to work out.

Danica LaniĀ  0:12Ā Ā 
Hello and welcome to the Kings of Joy Podcast Show Live at the Bandstand by Qtopia Sydney! We are gathered here today on Aborig...

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Mindful Intimacy: Meditative Practices for Queer Couples queer relating Nov 04, 2023

In the hustle and bustle of everyday life, it's easy for us to find ourselves feeling disconnected, especially when navigating challenges like lesbian bed death. But what if I told you that there's a way to foster a deeper connection without the pressure of traditional sexual expectations? That's wh...

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