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Make your Drag King Come Alive on Stage drag drag king energy gender human magnetism kings of joy kings of joy all-stars lgbtqia+ performance queer queer tantra yoga May 01, 2023

Why are some people able to shoot off straight after Kings of Joy Gold Stars and go solo while others are not sure what to do next or even where to start?

I’m Danica Lani, the King Coach and I’ve proudly mentored 78 first-time Drag Kings through Kings of Joy since December 2020.

I...

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Blinded? How narrative can help you see choreography drag king gender kings of joy lgbtqia+ performance queers of joy the king coach Apr 27, 2023

Do you remember a moment when you froze in front of a group of people? You might have been standing in front of your classroom as a kid or even on stage in a school play. In the split second of this experience, we make a decision. I’m never doing that again. And we don’t. We stop...

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Feeling Stressed and Out of Balance? It Might Be Your Gender Identity energy gender queer queer tantra relationships yoga Apr 21, 2023

I’m standing in the kitchen, a dropped plate on the floor, staring at my hand. There’s quite a cut on my palm and it’s starting to bleed. This is my wake-up call.

Whenever I injure myself, I take it as a reminder that I’m not present. And that I need to get present...

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But why Drag? 10 ways drag can make you a more rounded human. drag drag king kings of joy lgbtqia+ queer queer tantra Apr 20, 2023

Imagine a place, a safe place, among people who get you on some level, who perhaps have a similar lived experience... imagine gathering together, week after week to lean into and explore gender. It's what I recommend in all my queer tantra workshops. Lean into a variety of gender expressions....

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The Power of Boundaries: Why Saying "No" Can Feel So Good empowerment lgbtqia+ queer queer tantra relationships Apr 06, 2023

 Hey there, breathtaking human! Today, we're going to talk about something that's close to my heart – integrity and sex. As part of the LGBTQIA+ community, we know that sex can be complicated, but it's essential to approach it with honesty, respect, and love. So, let's dive in!

Have...

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The magic of being a first-time Drag King drag drag king gender kings of joy lgbtqia+ performance queer the king coach Mar 30, 2023

Being a first-time Drag King can be a transformative and empowering experience. My first time performing as a Drag King in 2011 in Melbourne certainly was. And later in Sydney when a mutual friend and Drag King, That Guy Steve, introduced me and Chris, it was while performing in a Drag King...

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Staying sane in the face of public hate empowerment feminist gender lgbtqia+ queer trans yoga Mar 23, 2023

First comes the shock - especially when it's unexpected. You're scrolling along on socials and boom - there's a post that shows you firsthand the nazi salute made by a tiny group of self-proclaimed neo-nazis holding a hateful sign aimed at people who are trans. No, not in America. Here in...

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Queer self-care after Sydney WorldPride empowerment habits lgbtqia+ queer queer tantra the king coach Mar 18, 2023

Was anyone else completely exhausted by Fair Day with WorldPride? In Sydney we were hosting the Sydney WorldPride event. Normally you have Mardi Gras and that's a great festival. This year we had WorldPride, which was like Mardi Gras on steroids. It was epic. There were events,...

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The secret sauce to queer tantra queer tantra Mar 11, 2023

What is it that takes everyday intimacy from everyday to tantric? There is one fundamental and integral secret ingredient...

So what is reverence?

Reverence is a feeling or attitude of deep respect, awe, and admiration towards something or someone believed to be sacred, holy, or deserving of...

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Why Drag Kings don’t need toxic masculinity drag king gender kings of joy the king coach Mar 10, 2023

Are you sick of experiences of toxic masculinity, where masculine expression comes out sideways in impactful and harmful ways? 

Yeah, me too. That's why, at Kings of Joy, we don't do representations of toxic masculinity onstage. It could be really easy to invent a Drag King character who is...

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Physical body vs Energetic body queer tantra Mar 02, 2023

We are most familiar with our physical body. Why? It's what we can see, hear, taste, touch and smell. 

The ancient yogis recognised that we have a physical body, and we also have an energetic body - It sits about 10 cm above our physical body.

It may have a different shape than your physical...

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Whatchya packin'? drag king kings of joy performance queers of joy the king coach Mar 02, 2023

What do you get when you put 6 first-time Drag Kings together on stage with some synchronised moves and secret packing? A consciousness-raising men's group of course!

Our newest Kings of Joy XII Gold Stars made their debut at Queers of Joy last Thursday 23 Feb at the Red Rattler to an...

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