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The secret sauce to queer tantra

queer tantra Mar 11, 2023

What is it that takes everyday intimacy from everyday to tantric? There is one fundamental and integral secret ingredient...

So what is reverence?

Reverence is a feeling or attitude of deep respect, awe, and admiration towards something or someone believed to be sacred, holy, or deserving of admiration. It involves a sense of humility, gratitude, and acknowledgement of the greatness or importance of the object of reverence. Reverence can be expressed through words, actions, rituals, or simply by being present with an open heart and mind, ready to receive the blessings of the revered entity. It is often associated with religious or spiritual practices but can also apply to cultural, intellectual, or personal values and ideals.

1. Mindfulness: Practicing mindfulness can help you cultivate a sense of reverence towards yourself, others, and the world around you. Take a few moments each day to be present and aware of your surroundings.

2. Gratitude: Being grateful for what you have and appreciating the people in your life is a way to show reverence. Make a habit of expressing gratitude daily.

3. Reflection: Spend time reflecting on your life experiences, your beliefs, and your values. This helps you to appreciate the journey and learn from it.

4. Service: Serving others without expecting anything in return is a way to show reverence towards those in need. Do something selfless for someone else.

5. Meditation: Taking time to meditate can help you connect with your inner self and feel a sense of reverence. You may find peace and comfort in the quietness.

6. Nature: Spending time in nature gives you an opportunity to connect with the natural world and appreciate its beauty. Take time to go outside and immerse yourself in the scenery.

7. Respect for others: Treat others with kindness and respect. Show reverence for their opinions and values even if they differ from yours.

Without reverence during love-making, sex devolves into everyday sex. Tantric sex always has the presence of reverence.

Enjoy practicing reverence!



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