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I’m in the clear!

I’m in the clear!

Do you ever not allow yourself to get excited until you’re sure that thing you want is happening? It’s been 2 weeks since the surgery and every day I’m feeling better and better. Today I saw my surgeon and it looks like I’m in the clear. I’ll need to monitor my cycle over the next few months but we think the removal of the fibroid has done the trick! The excitement comes from the real possibility, the future that my quality of life has just been dramatically improved. Watch out world…

 

Love,

Danica

Raw Chocolate Blissful Reunion

Raw Chocolate Blissful Reunion

Featuring me, raw chocolate and jazi

My first chocolate after 1.5 years of no chocolate or cacao of any kind. #lifeaftersurgery

One of my Tantra teachers recommended that I not eat chocolate or cacao as it’s a stimulant and could have been contributing to the heavy bleeding I was experiencing. Frankly, I was willing to try anything.

A mother’s love

A mother’s love

What is it about being in the presence of your mother’s love? There’s nothing like it. The calm, the warmth, the sense of security, being cushioned and cocooned, the quiet gentle support.

My mum was my perfect support partner today before during and after the surgery. And I got her all to myself!

I’m so grateful to be in my mother’s presence.

Last time I had this surgery in Jan I had kept it hidden, I was doing it on my own and was isolated. This time I built support and had so much love sent to me from all over the world. Thank you. I love you. And thank you Mum for being the best Mum in the world.

Love
Danica

Control or surrender?

Control or surrender?

Today I realised I’m a control freak – again! I was speaking with my mentor, Marjie in the US and I discovered a propensity to be very controlled about my circumstances. I’m in control a lot of the time. In fact, I’ve designed my life to be a certain way and manage my environment to be a certain way. However there are some circumstances in life where I actually don’t have control. I can’t control my girlfriend for example – anyone else ever tried to control their partner’s behaviour? I also can’t control the surgery I’m having tomorrow. My life will literally be in other people’s hands. And that’s their job – to wholly and completely take care of me.  Talk about an opportunity to surrender. It helps that I trust my surgeon and my anaesthetist. In Tantra, trust is what allows us to open and surrender further and further. I actually love surrendering – those moments when you can let go completely and give yourself over in the hands of another, or even the universe. And so today I surrender.

Heal your gut

Heal your gut

Last week I discovered that Nurofen, belonging to a group of medicines called NSAIDs or anti-inflammatory medication, was likely to be contributing to my pain. Yup, not only did I have severe period pain, but I hit the jackpot and got gut pain as well. Happy days. I admit I went to Google for guidance. I asked, can I take nurofen for gut pain? What came up was a series of case studies where NSAIDs actually caused gut pain. So I switched to paracetamol. Meanwhile, my gut was definitely impacted. What works for gut pain? Well, I happen to have done a lot of personal discovery around that, and while I don’t have IBS anymore, I certainly am armed with plenty of home remedies for gut pain.

  1. Aloe Vera juice. Number one. Recommended to me by the man who did my colonoscopy.
  2. Pre-soaked chia seeds – when your gut needs a gentle internal massage. Similarly, psyllium husk.  Make with ginger tea for extra warmth.
  3. Self-massage and essential oils – peppermint oil especially.
  4. Peppermint tea
  5. Hot water bottle
  6. Natrajasana – Lying down sideways twists

I’m now on a ‘heal your gut in 7 days’ progression. Nicole Cunningham is a homeopath from Puraforce Remedies. She recommends making bone broth. As a paleo advocate since 2010, I’m a big fan of bone broth but have never made it at home. She says,

“The gelatin in bone broth protects and heals the mucosal lining of the digestive tract and assist with the digestion of nutrients. Bone broth is exceptional for healing a leaky gut.”

After a trip down to the local butcher at the Sydney Fish Markets, we picked up some 2kgs of beef bones, put them in the slow cooker, filled with water and turned on high for 24 hours.  I’ve had two days of bone broth – my hot tip is – it tastes good, just don’t smell it.

Love

Danica

Return to Self

Return to Self

Even the Black Eyed Peas  are telling me to meditate.

“ Madness is what you demonstrate

And that’s exactly how anger works and operates

Man, you gotta have love just to set it straight

Take control of your mind and meditate

Let your soul gravitate to the love, y’all, y’all”

So I sit for 20 minutes in my return to sitting practice. It’s not meditation, it’s simply return to sitting – noticing what takes me away from being present. I took on this practice from the Summer Intensive Wisdom Course Leader training.

Then the Peace Angels cross my path again today. They have just returned from Salt Lake City on a tour to the Parliament of the Worlds Religions. People from all over the world and all religions were moved by their presence. Being in their presence really is a profoundly moving experience.

How do we shift from carer to lover?

How do we shift from carer to lover?

Over the years, during periods of ill health, I’ve been fortunate enough to have had many women who have cared for me. [Thank you!! You know who you are.] And there have been times when I’ve been a carer to my partner. When a partner steps into a caring role, our attention and energy goes into tending to those practicalities that assist with healing – making food, taking care of household tasks, massage, making more food – chicken soup, have you taken your medication/vitamins? Being supportive and emotionally available.  Listening to vivid descriptions of symptoms, theories of self-diagnosis and oftentimes listening to complaining and whining. Some of us even worry about our partner’s health. Worry doesn’t make much of a difference – it can be a useful motivator at times, but it also comes with it’s own cost to our wellbeing.

After going through days or weeks of being the carer, what’s left when the care is no longer intensively needed? Habits of care? Do you find yourself now organised around caring for your partner? Your thinking and actions are now orientated that way? Do you ever notice what happens to your sexuality, to your sexual energy? When your partner is not well, it’s not always the time for raucous lovemaking. In fact, most of us restrain ourselves and set aside our desire when caring for our beloved.

Declaring a period of care complete goes a long way in being free to shift from carer to lover. I start with acknowledgement. Thank you for caring for me so beautifully and meticulously. You did a great job of taking care of me – thank you. There may even be some things to acknowledge that were challenging or painful. Thank you for not making me wrong even when I was at my most whiny or my most down and dark moments. Or simple things like, thank you so much for that chicken soup you made – it was magic for my bones.

It’s a simple declaration – thanks for the great job you did, and your work here is done. And here’s where sexuality comes in. Once we have shifted to a resting phase (see the work of Jaiya for more words on ‘resting’ – the kindest distinctions around sexuality I’ve come across), it often feels like our sexuality has become dormant. Maybe we feel shut down, cut off or numb? Physically and energetically. It’s like our sexual energy has gone to sleep. Guess what? It has! You’ve been in a resting phase.

In an ideal world, what’s your favourite way to wake up? Many of us wake up to the sudden interruption of an alarm to which our internal dialogue says, press snooze. But just imagine it’s your day off, there’s nowhere you need to be, how do you like to wake up? Sexuality can be like that also.  It’s needs some warming up, some gentle reawakening. It’s alive, and always there – it never goes away, and yet it can be dormant. Start with a gentle massage, and quite possibly some coconut oil…

By the way, for those of you who are now curious, interested or intrigued, I’ll be facilitating a Tantra is Love workshop on Yoni Massage at the 2016 7 Sisters festival.

Lost & Found?

Lost & Found?

After 4 days of severe pain, I have officially lost my sense of humour. If anyone has some spare lying around, please send it my way.

On a serious note, the connection between humour, laughter and healing has been espoused by many. It’s probably the first thing I forget when dealing with pain. Today, I remembered. And I remembered long enough to do something about it. Flashback warning – welcome to the mid 90s…

The first episode of Ellen the show cracks me up – who else has ever had a terrible photo taken for their drivers licence or passport (dammit! Those suckers last for ten years!)?

Indulge me and yourself  – Ellen makes me laugh.

Just keep swimming

Just keep swimming

When life gets you down, you know what do you gotta do?

Just keep swimming…

Love

Danica

This too shall pass

This too shall pass

I remember when I first realised that whatever experience of life I was having at the time it too would pass. I might have been cloud watching. That helps. Have you ever watched a cloud disappear? Evaporate right in front of your eyes?

Pain is like that. Pain passes. So does anger, sadness, jealousy and fear. Happiness seems to disappear also. I think I’d rather have permission to feel the full range of human emotions and learn to watch them like clouds rolling in and rolling out. As not me. My mentor Marjie says, wellbeing issues are arbitrary and capricious. She also creates the future for herself of All is Well and I’m happy. I can create that all is well. Happiness, even with the circumstances I’ve got? Well that’s something to develop myself in. Being happy no matter how much pain I’m in seems a stretch right now. However, I’m willing to develop myself and the first place to start is with everywhere where I’m not that.

Where would you be willing to develop yourself in being happy in the face of your circumstances being the way they are?

Love

Danica

 

Collage by Danica Lani