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Do you crave connectedness?

Do you crave connectedness?

I was talking with a new friend in Sydney recently. She acknowledged me for my openness when we first met. She said it was so refreshing to meet someone who she could connect with straight away (not like all those constrained Sydney people magnetised around looking good!)

Connectedness is what we crave. I wonder if ultimately it’s a fundamental want – that human beings want to experience being connected, and we mostly don’t. Or perhaps we do in moments. And, that mostly, we don’t have the access to getting what’s in the way, out of the way.

I love the movie Into the Wild, not only because of the haunting parallels to my own life, but also for the poignancy of the message – as Christopher adjusts to living in the wilderness, he finally gets that, in his words, “Happiness is only real when it’s shared.”

I loved living by myself in the bush. Surrounded by National Park on a stretch of river. When I think of those 3.5 years though, my fondest memories are actually those times with the friends and lovers who stayed or lived there. It’s almost like those times by myself, take more effort to make stick in my memory. I imagine those will be the moments, those moments of connectedness that I’ll remember on my death bed. Those experiences that will make up the rich tapestry of my life – when I was connected, present and completely real with another human being.

Love

Danica

This too shall pass

This too shall pass

I remember when I first realised that whatever experience of life I was having at the time it too would pass. I might have been cloud watching. That helps. Have you ever watched a cloud disappear? Evaporate right in front of your eyes?

Pain is like that. Pain passes. So does anger, sadness, jealousy and fear. Happiness seems to disappear also. I think I’d rather have permission to feel the full range of human emotions and learn to watch them like clouds rolling in and rolling out. As not me. My mentor Marjie says, wellbeing issues are arbitrary and capricious. She also creates the future for herself of All is Well and I’m happy. I can create that all is well. Happiness, even with the circumstances I’ve got? Well that’s something to develop myself in. Being happy no matter how much pain I’m in seems a stretch right now. However, I’m willing to develop myself and the first place to start is with everywhere where I’m not that.

Where would you be willing to develop yourself in being happy in the face of your circumstances being the way they are?

Love

Danica

 

Collage by Danica Lani

One last Spark

One last Spark

The Spark Festival was a terrible blow to my ego. I was repeatedly told I’m a genius, I was asked out on a date, I was told I’m an amazing woman and a great teacher and I was told, I like you. And while not everyone at Spark was happy all the time, there was a refreshing directness and honesty in how people communicated. Going in, I knew to expect an adventure, I just didn’t know what that adventure would look like. All sorts of unexpected things happened from a guy in my first workshop deciding he would lead the workshop himself to the woman who refused to participate throughout and then got up and genuinely thanked me at the end. It was a dance to discover how to allow people to be however they were and to have that work for everyone and for the fulfilment of the workshop. I’ve come out exhausted and all used up. And that’s how I like it.

It has been one of those life experiences that nothing anyone could have said beforehand would have impacted the fact that I simply had to experience it for myself. I am a different human being.

Love

Danica

Cut from a different cloth

Cut from a different cloth

I am cut from a different cloth and I’m starting to learn that that is not better than someone else who is cut from a different cloth, it’s not wrong that I’m cut from a different cloth and it’s not dangerous to be cut from a different cloth.

In fact, all the different fabrics and colours and textures and weaves of these different cloths is what makes up the beauty in the tapestry of human beings.

Thank you to my friends in the US who presenced this conversation for me this morning.

I don’t do life the normal way, the prescribed way, the unexamined way.

Life is rich and wonderous and beautiful – when I let it be and let others be.

What cloth are you cut from?

How does who you are contribute to the fabric of humanity?