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Wonderings on daily practices

Wonderings on daily practices

Practices keep me vital. So how does one choose which practices to do each day? I mean, if you’re anything like me, you could easily devote 3 hours a day just to do daily practices. From when I wake up in the morning, it’s time for yoga – asana, pranayama, making love, meditation, self-cultivation, chanting, purja, morning pages, vocal warm ups, physio/pilates exercises, oil swilling, uddiyana bandha, making the bed, kegals, diffuse an essential oil, multivitamins & iron and top it off with a green smoothie, let alone showering and brushing my teeth! And, if you’re anything like me, I don’t have 3 extra hours in the morning as well as getting sufficient sleep, vitamin D, remembering my posture and keeping present an empowering context for myself and my life.

Then there’s the daily promises I’ve made to not go to bed without having done. Practicing guitar, emptying my capture tool, singing and dancing daily for the next 3 years, return to sitting daily for the next 15 years and writing and publishing my blog every day for at least 30 days if not longer. Ready for a nap anyone? There’s another great practice – napping.

Fortunately/unfortunately, I am not superwoman and I do not get that all done in a day. And I’ve noticed that when I add a new practice in, something else has a tendency to fall out. Like one-pointed focus, I get fixated on my new practice and make sure I do it before going to bed. A few days later, I remember – oh! I haven’t been doing my other daily practice!

I’m curious about the practices that I could do for 3 years, or 15 years and the results they could bring. I wonder if noticing falling off the horse is just as important as returning to a practice.

How do you choose your practices?

Photo credit: Zara Albion-Lawson

Do I?

Do I?

I’m afraid of marriage. No, it’s not the commitment – I’ve demonstrated my ability to commit in relationship. I love the commitment and devotion. It’s not the ‘forever’ either. I’m wired to dive straight into forever. It would always be an open marriage as it’s against my values to be sexually exclusive. So is it the cultural maya of marriage – the ‘trap’ of it? Is it that I’ve been rejected before when I asked the woman I loved to marry me several times and she said no?

When people ask me if I’m going to get married to my partner, I always say, ‘It’s not legal…’ I want to point that out. My view is – heterosexual people with the right to marry should be the ones to change this law and make it equal. And I’m glad some of you are finally speaking up. But I’m not going to do anything about it.

It’s just that I have a niggling feeling, a suspicion that I now use the ‘it’s not legal’ line to back people off. Because I’m afraid. I’m afraid of wanting something that I might not be able to have, I’m afraid of getting married just so we can get divorced, I’m definitely afraid of bringing two families together. I’ve had two families before and after losing one in the ‘divorce’, I can’t bear the thought of losing another…

Should we have the choice? Yes. Then just watch me squirm in the public declaration and legality of marriage. Here’s one way to make it equal – abolish marriage – what’s it got to do with the State anyway? I don’t even know if I believe what I just wrote…

The thing is, I don’t want to get straight married. I’m not for straight marriage. I’m personally just not ready for it. I’d rather get gay married. You know, where there’s lip synching at the engagement party and Lady Gaga costumes at the wedding under a big gay mirror ball…

Ps. Of course I do!

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Food: Do you have a big enough why?

Food: Do you have a big enough why?

Most of us need a ‘why’ big enough to eat consciously. Being present and giving thanks when eating are all valuable practices but it takes a big enough ‘why’ for most of us to stay true to our food choices.

I’ve been Paleo since 2010. How come? Our CrossFit trainer lent us the book, The Paleo Solution by Robb Wolf and I read it. Highly engaging and entertaining, the man also backs up his theories with a lot of scientific evidence. When he recommended going paleo for 30 days, no grains, no dairy and no legumes, no processed sugar and see how you feel, I did and it worked. I felt clean. And light in a clear, good way. Interestingly a very similar way of eating was prescribed to me by my GP a few years earlier. So after 30 days, I just kept going and haven’t stopped for five years. Foods that I don’t eat, just don’t occur to me as food, treats or nourishing anymore. I look at a big sugary mud cake, and what I see is toxic – don’t put that in your body!

A friend of mine, in their self-confessed ‘unsolicited wisdom’, proffered the view that I might be a little too rigid in my food choices. I’ll be the first to admit my puritan tendencies. In fact, there is a now a new eating disorder for people obsessed with healthy eating called Orthorexia.  Gratefully I don’t suffer from any of the symptoms described. However, I considered my friend’s words and have been mulling them over. It occurs to me that when it comes to the matter of what food I put in my body, I am reliable for keeping my word. I do not stray. There are times on the rare occasion, where I will declare an exception for butter for example, when the person cooking for me has a passion for it. However, I made a commitment to no longer eat chocolate (raw, organic or cacao) due to the over-stimulating characteristics and the possible link to menorrhagia last year and not once have I ‘slipped up’, been taken by temptation or broken my word. In other areas of our lives, we call that level of commitment and honouring of one’s word, integrity.

It seems to help to have a big enough why. My body is not just my own. I’ve registered to be an organ donor so I intend to keep my organs as clear and clean as I can to pass onto the next human being. What’s a why that would be big enough for you?


* Roo burgers on raw cauliflower ‘rice’ #paleo #rawfood

Commitment worthy of life?

Commitment worthy of life?

Since I was 16, I have been pretending to be committed to fundraising. I had my photo on the front page of the local paper with two other girls in the Miss Victoria Awards for the Victorian Spastic Society. It was in full colour and a big deal in a country town. My sponsor said to me, why don’t you do a sausage sizzle in the car park, out the front of K-Mart? I was sixteen and I was not going to be caught dead doing a sausage sizzle out the front of K-Mart! I was so stopped in asking people for money, that I didn’t ask anyone. And I didn’t raise any money.

What I did learn was that a ‘good person’ is a fundraiser. For years I talked about raising money. “I’m going to raise $10,000 for the Gay and Lesbian Switchboard next year!” I’d declare. I had it on t-shirts, I had it in my goals for all my staff and customers to see… And I never raised any money. I was happy to donate money, but I never raised any.

When I fessed this up during the Wisdom Unlimited Course in 2010, it was such a freeing moment. You mean, I don’t have to continue to pretend to be committed to fundraising? You mean, I’m an adult and I could actually create a commitment worthy of my life? I wonder what that commitment could be…?

Well, what is important to me?

That people dance publicly.

When I look back at my photos on Facebook over those last four years in Melbourne, there has been sooo much dance!

Now that I live in a new city, inside a new community of people in Sydney, I’m declaring that commitment complete.

In my Artist Immersion, I have begun to wonder about creating a new commitment. One that would be worthy of my life…

I wonder…