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In love with Christine & the Queens

In love with Christine & the Queens

I wonder if being an artist means being true to oneself, being so authentically and wholly oneself that when art is expressed it is as an expression of Self.

Christine gathered her Queens from the stages of drag, dedicating many of her creations to them and to all transgender individuals.

Could the presence of art arise inside of community and what would that look like?

Thank you Kimberlite for introducing me to my newest artist love affair!

Love

Danica

Raw Chocolate Blissful Reunion

Raw Chocolate Blissful Reunion

Featuring me, raw chocolate and jazi

My first chocolate after 1.5 years of no chocolate or cacao of any kind. #lifeaftersurgery

One of my Tantra teachers recommended that I not eat chocolate or cacao as it’s a stimulant and could have been contributing to the heavy bleeding I was experiencing. Frankly, I was willing to try anything.

A mother’s love

A mother’s love

What is it about being in the presence of your mother’s love? There’s nothing like it. The calm, the warmth, the sense of security, being cushioned and cocooned, the quiet gentle support.

My mum was my perfect support partner today before during and after the surgery. And I got her all to myself!

I’m so grateful to be in my mother’s presence.

Last time I had this surgery in Jan I had kept it hidden, I was doing it on my own and was isolated. This time I built support and had so much love sent to me from all over the world. Thank you. I love you. And thank you Mum for being the best Mum in the world.

Love
Danica

Control or surrender?

Control or surrender?

Today I realised I’m a control freak – again! I was speaking with my mentor, Marjie in the US and I discovered a propensity to be very controlled about my circumstances. I’m in control a lot of the time. In fact, I’ve designed my life to be a certain way and manage my environment to be a certain way. However there are some circumstances in life where I actually don’t have control. I can’t control my girlfriend for example – anyone else ever tried to control their partner’s behaviour? I also can’t control the surgery I’m having tomorrow. My life will literally be in other people’s hands. And that’s their job – to wholly and completely take care of me.  Talk about an opportunity to surrender. It helps that I trust my surgeon and my anaesthetist. In Tantra, trust is what allows us to open and surrender further and further. I actually love surrendering – those moments when you can let go completely and give yourself over in the hands of another, or even the universe. And so today I surrender.

Notes on failure

Notes on failure

I’m frustrated. I want to record this song for my beloved and I’m not practiced enough yet. It’s not a perfectionism thing, it’s literally the familiarity with the pathways for my voice and fingers on the guitar. I don’t have it down yet. This is not my first attempt.

Someone said to me recently, what if failure was simply falling short? Yeah but if failure was simply just falling short, what about my story and drama? Well, let’s see if we can set aside the story and drama for a moment and look at failure as simply falling short. I had a commitment to accomplish this thing and I fell short. I guess I could just get up again and discover what happens when I keep going…?

Where have you fallen short recently and could keep going, if only for the wonder of discovering what might happen?

Do you crave connectedness?

Do you crave connectedness?

I was talking with a new friend in Sydney recently. She acknowledged me for my openness when we first met. She said it was so refreshing to meet someone who she could connect with straight away (not like all those constrained Sydney people magnetised around looking good!)

Connectedness is what we crave. I wonder if ultimately it’s a fundamental want – that human beings want to experience being connected, and we mostly don’t. Or perhaps we do in moments. And, that mostly, we don’t have the access to getting what’s in the way, out of the way.

I love the movie Into the Wild, not only because of the haunting parallels to my own life, but also for the poignancy of the message – as Christopher adjusts to living in the wilderness, he finally gets that, in his words, “Happiness is only real when it’s shared.”

I loved living by myself in the bush. Surrounded by National Park on a stretch of river. When I think of those 3.5 years though, my fondest memories are actually those times with the friends and lovers who stayed or lived there. It’s almost like those times by myself, take more effort to make stick in my memory. I imagine those will be the moments, those moments of connectedness that I’ll remember on my death bed. Those experiences that will make up the rich tapestry of my life – when I was connected, present and completely real with another human being.

Love

Danica

Body Party

Body Party

I first met Luke Wilkie on the set of the Australian television series, Offspring. We were both hired as dancers from the Body Electric crew to dance in a club called “Tuff Muff“ (I kid you not) behind Deborah Mailman (**in awe**), Asher Keddie and cast. (Spot the leopard print dress!) I love falling in love with people on the dance floor.

A while later I discovered that Luke had a skill set and impressive library, not only as a much loved and followed instagrammer, but in music production. He did a remix of one of the songs off my debut ep micromovements and our collaboration has been growing. We essentially create electro-pop music that makes you move. We’ve created a couple of original tracks, some covers and have performed at a few underground warehouse parties in Melbourne. We are called Body Party. I look forward to sharing more of our journey with you…

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Love

Danica

Teaser

Teaser

I’m in the mood for teasing. On my last trip to Melbourne, I met up with a photographer friend, Garth Ernstzen. Two years ago he started making a jacket that he’d asked me to model. Being someone who likes to create multiple intentions and fulfil on multiple outcomes, I asked him if he would also be willing to film a new dance routine I’ve been working on. He said yes!

When I first heard this song, it touched my soul immediately. Check out this next sentence: S’ra and I were in our uber and this song came on the radio so I reached for my iphone and shazam’d it then downloaded it straight away onto my itunes. I mean seriously, 10 years ago I would never have said that sentence. I digress.

Do you remember is by Brissie boy, Jarryd James. His voice is so soulful. I immediately wanted to choreograph movement and to create a lyrical style piece to his song. I’m super excited to be viewing the video edits for this at the moment with Garth.

And looking forward to sharing with you…

Love

Danica

Ask for what you want

Ask for what you want

I stumbled across this delicious demonstration of asking for what you want today. I was first introduced to Jillian Meyers a number of years ago when Ali Shirley and I attended a Masterclass with the Janet Jackson dancers who were out on tour. Jilly stood out as unique, holding her own and with a presence that exceeded most in the room.

In this first video, she makes a proposal to a band she loves – Hozier. Her proposal is to collaborate together using her choreography and concept for their film clip. The second clip is the final result. So inspiring.

What could you ask for that you haven’t yet?

Heal your gut

Heal your gut

Last week I discovered that Nurofen, belonging to a group of medicines called NSAIDs or anti-inflammatory medication, was likely to be contributing to my pain. Yup, not only did I have severe period pain, but I hit the jackpot and got gut pain as well. Happy days. I admit I went to Google for guidance. I asked, can I take nurofen for gut pain? What came up was a series of case studies where NSAIDs actually caused gut pain. So I switched to paracetamol. Meanwhile, my gut was definitely impacted. What works for gut pain? Well, I happen to have done a lot of personal discovery around that, and while I don’t have IBS anymore, I certainly am armed with plenty of home remedies for gut pain.

  1. Aloe Vera juice. Number one. Recommended to me by the man who did my colonoscopy.
  2. Pre-soaked chia seeds – when your gut needs a gentle internal massage. Similarly, psyllium husk.  Make with ginger tea for extra warmth.
  3. Self-massage and essential oils – peppermint oil especially.
  4. Peppermint tea
  5. Hot water bottle
  6. Natrajasana – Lying down sideways twists

I’m now on a ‘heal your gut in 7 days’ progression. Nicole Cunningham is a homeopath from Puraforce Remedies. She recommends making bone broth. As a paleo advocate since 2010, I’m a big fan of bone broth but have never made it at home. She says,

“The gelatin in bone broth protects and heals the mucosal lining of the digestive tract and assist with the digestion of nutrients. Bone broth is exceptional for healing a leaky gut.”

After a trip down to the local butcher at the Sydney Fish Markets, we picked up some 2kgs of beef bones, put them in the slow cooker, filled with water and turned on high for 24 hours.  I’ve had two days of bone broth – my hot tip is – it tastes good, just don’t smell it.

Love

Danica